“I know it’s bad” – Unadorned child mayhem

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A mother of four from the US regularly shows her everyday life on TikTok. She also likes to show off the mess in her house.

“The bit of housekeeping that takes care of itself,” goes the well-known and almost eponymous hit song by Johanna von Koczian from 1977. Today’s mothers can sing a song about how it has little to do with reality. Not only the American TikToker and mother of four Brianna Jones (31) often sees chaos, disorder and sometimes overwhelm in her everyday life with four children. But unlike others, she is also not shy to show the reality on her social media account. She always gives her fans courage.

Parenting: “I know it’s bad” – Raw chaos of four children

The 31-year-old from the state of Georgia regularly posts real and unadorned videos of everyday life with her offspring, who are between the ages of one and seven, on her TikTok account “themessymama” (translated: “The Messy Mom”). In one video, for example, she shows the mess in the kitchen and dining room after having the flu for four days, as she explains in it. “I know it’s bad,” she writes under the clip and continues: “Everyone was sick at the same time.” And in fact, order looks different: plates, towels, laundry and garbage are everywhere and distributed in the apartment.

A mother of four from the US presents the mess in her kitchen on TikTok. © themessymama4/TikTok

In addition to critical comments during the video, she also receives a lot of compassion and courage from her community for her situation. “Honestly, this is real life. A family house can’t be clean 24/7,” writes one user, for example, and another says: “Thanks for sharing. You’re not alone. Keep going. You’re helping more people, than you think. Others just don’t let anyone know and it gets worse.”

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Cleaning up with children: Tips to get the little ones to help

If you still want to keep the chaos under control, you can encourage your children to help clean up. So-called lawnmower parents, in particular, tend to remove all obstacles from their children’s path, not only figuratively, but also literally. Therefore, it can sometimes happen that they do their children’s homework. In the long term, however, this parenting style can cause significant harm to the children. So that children learn to clean up independently at some point, the following tips can help, so that they can even enjoy it:

  • Give your child specific instructions, such as: “Please place the Lego bricks in the blue box”. Because the task of “tidying up your room” is often too big for the little ones and can overwhelm them.
  • Make cleaning a game by being playful. Communicate to your child that the dolls will now be put to bed instead of “just” cleaning them up and the toy cars will be parked in the garage. This method is especially useful for younger children. Early practice makes sense, and therefore they can help clean up from the age of two and experience small successes.
  • A clean-up routine can help the little ones get involved. Because structures are important to children because they also provide them with security. For example, you could spend ten minutes putting the toys together every night before going to bed.
  • Use colored boxes for the different toys. Your child will be able to easily find his way around and clean up if he knows that, for example, there are dolls in the red box and Legos in the green box.

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