Youngest, middle, oldest child? What does it say about personality?

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Youngest, oldest or middle child? What does it say about your personality?

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Have you ever wondered if your birth order also has something to do with the way you developed? According to a psychologist, that may be the case.

The first child is the rebel who still has to have his way with his parents because of everything. The: second in line has it easier because it has already been discussed and they can concentrate on other things – and the third child may have already been so relaxed with their parents that they can without hesitation try much more than siblings.

Some of the various theories about children’s characters are probably like this or something similar. Looking at research, firstborns are more likely to be leaders than their younger siblings. According to the American psychologist Laurie Kramer, this does not necessarily have to be the case. Instead, birth order often influences character, but no one is better or worse than the other. Whether the first, second or third child is not decisive for which path a person ultimately chooses. In essence, all children have leadership potential. However, the environment they grow up in determines whether they develop this, the psychologist explains to CNBC Make it. But according to Kramer, birth status can have the following effects.

The first child: Independent and confident

Of course, not only firstborns, but also only children can possess this unique quality that makes them good leaders. With the first child, it is often the case that parents are very involved and try to interpret every feeling of the young child, to support and protect them. As a result, an only child or firstborn often feels very accepted and empowered, according to psychologist Kramer. This often leads to more self-confidence and personal responsibility in the child. The eldest siblings would most benefit from being among the younger ones as a leader, she continues. This sometimes also means that they show and teach their latest finds to their younger family members – which means they learn something too.

The youngest child: try and discover

Many interests and many opportunities await around every corner. Life is full of potential for the youngest children, often because they not only test their own experiences in family life, but also observe their siblings. With the third child, the parents often have a lot to deal with at once. Because with more children, the house is literally filled with even more life. With the youngest child, parents have already learned through their previous experiences that the little ones can be unobserved for a short time, even in stressful moments, and that they can be more independent than they think.

Younger children are often quicker to gain privileges that their older siblings may have had to argue for. You can drive to school faster on your own or join us in the deep end of the pool. Because they learn a lot by observing others and grow with their experiences. As a result, they are often the discoverers and the good observers who recognize what is going on in the house. They are also usually good at finding and pursuing their own interests.

The middle child: communication artists

Those who grow up in the middle often find their strength in being able to form good relationships with others. According to the American psychologist Kramer, they are also extremely good at communicating. Especially with the middle child, it is often the case that they feel left out when the newborn arrives. The battle for attention is therefore often particularly great with the middle child – which can lead to them taking a completely different path to their siblings in order to stand out. The feeling that they may not have received enough attention can cause them to express themselves particularly well and clearly and to appear very helpful to others.

It doesn’t always matter when you were born

Some of these characteristics of children may be true, but of course this is not always the case. Every person and every family deals with raising and raising children differently. And it is also possible that a child acquires one of the other strengths or perhaps even all of them – or completely different ones that will help him/her on the path of life. According to Kramer, these are only general statements, but none of them necessarily apply. Rather, it is important to see that every child has leadership potential in one way or another.


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