For many children and young people, this is the day they have been waiting for: the last day of school before the summer holidays. But this day some children have stomach aches – the grades are bad, the fear of their parents’ reaction is great. In some families, there is also the fact that the consequences of the corona pandemic have affected how we live together, and that the prices of energy and food in particular, which have been rising sharply for several months, are also straining everyday life.
Coordinator: “Children will not burden their parents”
On counseling phones from “Number against grief “, the volunteer counselors have an open ear for children, young people and parents. Matthias Hoffmann is coordinator of the state working group” Number against grief “in the state association Schleswig-Holstein Child Welfare Association. He explains:” Especially children and young people take the faith against their parents’ worries and do not want to burden their parents further. Therefore, many children do not share their own worries and fears. ” It is so much the more important that they can relieve, for example, on the child and youth telephone. Often, the young people who call can also develop an idea in the conversation. for example how to change the thread of the conversation could get in touch with their parents again.
Number against grief: guide for children and parents
- “Number against grief eV” is a nationwide counseling service for children, young people and parents. Telephone counseling is available at 116 111 to children and teenagers, anonymous and free from Monday to Saturday, 14:00 to 20:00.
- If you do not like to make phone calls, you can also chat or send an e-mail – via Online advice for the association.
- To parents phone is also free Monday to Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., and Tuesdays and Thursdays until 6 p.m. (0800) 111 0 550 accessible.
Advice for children and parents for better handling
A call like this can help in an uncomplicated way – especially on the day of the report: “We are there and listening. We help to be calmer and clearer inside. When there are problems with the report, many children and young people use counseling to prepare for a conversation with their parents ”, says Martina Teschner, coordinator for the child and youth telephone and parent hotline at the child welfare association in Kiel.
But parents would also call. They were worried about the future of their children, and often conflicts would arise if their child came home with a bad report. According to Teschner, parents wonder how to deal with it: “We often find out on the parents’ phone, how the parents feel more secure in the course of the counseling, and how they develop opportunities – even after the reporting period – to get in better contact with their children. “
In Schleswig-Holstein, various locations provide advice on “Nummer mod Kummer”: The children’s and young people’s telephone has locations in Bargteheide, Kiel and Lübeck, the parents’ hotline in Bad Oldesloe, Kiel and Neustadt / Holstein and is sponsored. by the relevant local organizations of the German Child Welfare Association or in Lübeck of the Diakonia of Society. The State Association of the Child Welfare Association coordinates the state working group of telephones in Schleswig-Holstein.