Straelenerin is full-time and self-employed in family support

Interview Anne-Kathrin Leleit-Fidomski
“Children’s needs are always the same”

Anne-Kathrin Lekeit-Fidomski from Broekhuysen has a lot to do with families in her main job and in her freelance work.

Mrs Leleit-Fidomski, you have been working full-time in the mother-child home in Geldern since March. What is your responsibility there?

Anne-Kathrin Lekeit-Fidomski I accompany young mothers and their children on the road to independence. All customers have individual, special needs. First and foremost, we ensure the child’s well-being. Having a baby drastically changes the lives of these mothers, so they need support in dealing with their children and in everyday life. Such a thing can start with working out a daily structure and going all the way to joint procurement to develop a sense of money. Our work focuses on the mother-child relationship. When does my baby need food? When should I bathe it? Where does my baby sleep and what do I dress him for? We are close contacts. Our workplace is your home. It is exciting because we can experience beautiful moments and also have to deal with conflict situations.

    In future, the family helper would like to be there for (prospective) parents right from the start.

In future, the family helper would like to be there for (prospective) parents right from the start.
Photo: Evers, Gottfried (eve)

What education have you made for this?

Leleit-Fidomski I am a trained childhood educator. After my studies, I further trained as a sleep consultant for babies and toddlers. I have also recently completed a nursing course. Each of these three areas is incredibly useful when working with parents and their children.

What made you choose this career?

Leleit-Fidomski I have always wanted to work with people. Working with parents is my absolute passion. Seeing how they develop and position themselves stronger for the relationship with their child impresses me immensely. Especially with this target group, I notice that the topics are always the same. For this reason, I decided to specialize further and also to work outside of my main job.

You are self-employed as a sleep and family counselor. What issues and problems are you tackling?

Leleit-Fidomski In both areas, the most important thing for me when I work together is to look together: “What does your child need and what do you need?” My theoretical knowledge of early childhood development provides an understanding of why our children are who they are and why it is valuable to listen to them and be guided by them in the best possible way. In sleep counseling, questions like: Why does my child wake up at night? How much food does it take? How long should my child sleep during the day? When do children sleep through? The spectrum extends much further. Here we look at the current situation and discuss the long-term goal. There is a good reason why children do not sleep all night, for example. Such a thing can not be “learned”. Sleep counseling helps parents to become clearer about their children’s development and to make small changes that make everyone involved feel comfortable. Sleep is supposed to be a beautiful thing, and unaccompanied tears are inappropriate. In addition, parents contact me if they have difficulty handling the autonomy phase. The children now experience their emotions much more intensely and want to be more autonomous and self-determining. It is a great challenge for many parents in everyday life, which is full of appointments and errands. It is often difficult for parents to find their own parenting style and to accompany their children in this anger, sadness and frustration. Security and clarity are important to them, and at the same time they want to educate with love and appreciation.

Is there a shift in focus?

Leleit-Fidomski I would not say that. Children’s needs have always been the same. In my eyes, however, the way we look at our children is starting to change. Many parents are moving away from previous parenting styles and want to get out of this family power relationship. Wherever we are in development, if we begin to try to understand our children, we can learn to deal with it. We keep in touch with them, make them feel comfortable as they are. With all the positive and negative emotions. Boundaries are used for guidance and structure, not punishment.

Do you have other professional plans?

Leleit-Fidomski In my main job, I feel very comfortable and clarified. In my self-employed business, I want to expand my offering in the long run. In collaboration with various institutions, I would like to support (expectant) parents from the very beginning. In addition, I would like to reach out to more of the professionals in the future. Topics such as sleep, breastfeeding and early childhood development still lack some clarification so that children can be accompanied naturally.

How do you find relaxation in your free time?

Leleit-Fidomski I really have to think about that for a moment. I try all kinds of creative things to relax and I like reading books. I really enjoy going out with my family.

What do you love about Straelen and Broekhuysen?

Leleit-Fidomski As a city kid, I love the tranquility and the country atmosphere. Life in Broekhuysen is incredibly familiar. What could be nicer than opening the front door, smelling the country air and surrendering to nature?

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