7 reasons why French children do not get tantrums

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7 reasons why French children do not get tantrums

In France, a different style of upbringing is sometimes cultivated.

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French children are extremely well-behaved, and for many parents, “tantrum” is a foreign word. Seven reasons why this is so.

When you think of France, you might think of good food (especially cheese), wine, champagne and the Eiffel Tower – but of course an entire country has a lot more to offer than that. French children, for example, are not known for throwing tantrums at every little thing that does not go their way. The online magazine “Mom Junction” explains why this could be the case. In this article, we have summarized what we can possibly learn from French parents.

There is no “food for children”

In France, there is no distinction between food for adults and children – everyone eats the same. This means that French children are mostly used to food, which our children may view with skepticism. The exceptions are hard-to-eat foods like mussels or lobster and foods that are too spicy. In general, food is celebrated in French culture – and the little gourmets provide peace in the family with their taste buds, which are cared for from an early age.
There is no small snack between appointments, some lunches can last for hours. From an early age, children learn etiquette at the table, such as putting only as much food on the plate as they can eat and not wasting any food. It is also common practice to gather as a family to eat at least once a day.

Good behavior has high priority

Politeness, patience and consideration are taught to children in France from a very young age – and their parents are a good example. The neighbors as well as guests and strangers are greeted kindly. If you have to stand in line, do so patiently and without gnawing. Likewise, French parents teach their children that it is appropriate to offer older seats in buses and trains. The magic word “please” is learned and used early, as are “thank you”, “you are welcome” and “have a good day”.

independence from an early age

Independence is very important in French education

Independence is very important in French education.

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In France, mothers are only entitled to maternity leave for ten weeks after the birth of their child. They can then extend their parental leave – but since this is not usually paid, most refrain from doing so. The children are then in day care and kindergarten at a similarly early age and get used to new relationships and people at the beginning of their lives, which benefits their independence. Late afternoon babysitting services are also very common in France. Many facilities for three to six-year-olds fit the little ones until 4.30pm during the week – with the exception of Wednesdays, which are usually only cared for half a day.

Parents do not interfere in everything

As parents, it can sometimes be very difficult not to interfere in our children’s lives – after all, we only want the best for them and protect them from danger, pain and other negative experiences. In France, there is a strong belief that a child’s free development must be protected – as long as the children do not abuse this freedom. For example, if a parent notices that their child is arguing with their peers, they do not interfere, but wait and see if and how the child resolves the conflict independently.

The child can be a child

Just let children be children

Just let children be children.

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A five-year-old French child who cannot yet read is not uncommon. In France, children should be allowed to be children for as long as possible – and that means playing a lot and not studying all day.

Family time is used consistently

Sunday is family day. This is practically an unwritten law in France. The children are not usually allowed to meet on Sundays, just as the parents are not allowed to work that day. Many French families plan Sundays well in advance to be able to spend time together as efficiently as possible.

Children control their own money

Own pocket money avoids drama at the supermarket checkout

Own pocket money avoids drama at the supermarket checkout.

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It gets exhausting at the checkout in the supermarket at the latest. For this is where all the good things that children really want are gathered. If this is denied by the parents, the scream quickly becomes loud and unpleasant. In France, however, things often work out differently: here, at an early age, children receive their own pocket money from their parents, which they can use freely. When they visit the supermarket and see something they like, they just buy it themselves. Problem solved. If what you want is too expensive, just save a little and can not afford the next visit. Children learn the value of money from an early age. The amount of pocket money usually depends on the age of the child.

Sources used: momjunction.com, connexion-emploi.com, tagesschau.de, kindergartenpaedagogik.de

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